Monday, November 23, 2009

A sad time

Life has come to a stop here. After having hope again for my beloved Father in law, things had turned for the worse. We had a couple of days of hope, of new dreams, of fun and laughter together. There were lots of scans, appointments for cancer treatment, but before the results of all tests were fully known, Dad got a heavy bleeding in the brain which took him away from us. When the results of the previous tests came in, we all knew that this was only a blessing.

We were with him when he still was able to speak to us, we were with him in the emergency room, and we were with him day and night until he left us. We were holding his hands and talking to him.  It might sound weird, but it was not only a sad time. It gave us peace too to be with him in this hour and assure him from our deep love.

I feel not only deeply saddened by the loss of this wonderful man, I also feel honored to have known this terrific husband of 46 years to his wife, a great father to his 4 children and their wives, a most wonderful opa to his grand children. A family man who's love was unconditional, a gentle man with an unbeatable humor - even in the days with unbearable pain still cracking a joke to make us laugh. There is no person that dislikes him, because he is such a nice man. Life is just not fair at times!!!



42 comments:

Missy Ann said...

(((Gabi & family)))

Shelley said...

Gabi I am so sorry to hear of your FIL passing. He feels no more pain. Sending healing thoughts of love and comfort your way.

Jennifer said...

Oh, Gabbi, I am so thinking of you and your family today!
Strange, but last night, I had a thought, Gosh, I haven't heard from Gabbi on my blog in a while and wondered what was up.
I'm so sorry to hear this and I"m glad that your last hour was peaceful even though a very sad time.
Life is just not fair. The good people leave us and the well, others hang around. I know that sounds crazy.
I'm a nurse practitioner and had to diagnose and tell someone last week they had cancer. I found it.
It's sad to watch good, good people pass away.
I will pray for you and your family.

Sincerely and with prayer,
Jennifer
Feathers in the Nest

jayne@~an eye for threads~ said...

The initial heartbreak will soon turn a corner and lead you down one of the most wonderful memory lanes. Take that walk as often as you need because without memories, our lives seem uneventful.Take care of you and your family and know that all of our thoughts are with you.
Be always in stitches

Annie said...

So sorry to hear of this but glad that you were able to be there for the last hours and that it was peaceful. Hugs and prayers to you all.

Pam said...

Oh, Gabi. I am so sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time.

Giovanna said...

Hugs to all of you, Gabi. I can read in your words that the healing has already started and that you will, wisely, give it all the time it needs for its gentle action. I'm so sorry that this has happened.

Rachel said...

Sorry for your loss Gabi. You and your family are in my thoughts.

Blu said...

My prayers and hugs are with you and your family.

Tammy said...

So sorry for your loss. Remembering all the good times definitely helps!

Jill said...

Gaby, so sorry for your loss. Having just gone through this last week with my mom, what is working for me is knowing that she is in a better place and holding on to all the good times we had together. God Bless you and your family. Peace.

Nancy M said...

I am so sorry to hear of your loss, but I know you and your family will talk about the great memories and cherish them for years to come. I'm sure it was comforting to know that your family was with him till the end and he knew how much he was loved. Take care of yourself as you continue your grieving. You know I am always just an email away if you need anything.

5 Foot Runt said...

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I know everyone as hoping for a different ending but it was not meant to be. My thoughts prayers are with you and your famliy.

Rae Ann said...

Oh Gabi, I am so sorry for your loss, but know that he is now in a better place and he will always be with you and your family in your hearts.

Nic said...

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss.

Donna said...

Gabi, I don't think I have words for your loss. Just know that you are in my prayers and thoughts. I am so glad you have the memories to hold onto!

~Alberta~ said...

This is a wonderful tribute of a very special person in your life. May your memories ease the hurt during this sad time.

Irene said...

Sorry for your loss.

Rene la Frog said...

Gabi,
Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. He sounds like a very special person and I know he will be missed by many.

Terry said...

Sorry to hear of your loss. Big hugs coming your way!!!

Chrissie said...

So sorry to read of the passing of your dear FIL. May he rest in peace.

Chrissie

Cari said...

Oh Gabi, I am so very sad to hear of your loss. Please know that you and your family are in my prayers.

Carolyn NC said...

Gabi, I'm so sorry to hear this news. But I'm so glad that it happened peacefully and you were all able to be with him every step of the way. I keep you all in thoughts and prayers. May you have comfort and peace from God. (((HUGS)))

Meari said...

Oh Gabi... I'm so sorry to hear of your FIL's passing. ((hugs)) to you all, and my deepest condolences!

Marjorie said...

I'm very sorry Gabi. Give your hubby a big hug from me.

Dani - tkdchick said...

Sorry for your loss, what wonderful things you have to say about him!

Siobhan said...

Oh Gabi, I am so sorry. Your family will be in my prayers. Take comfort in knowing that your FIL knows--and knew--how loved he is & was. Big hugs.

Kathy said...

Gabi,

My deepest condolences to you and your family. I understand the sorrow you are all going through.

Hugs and comfort from me to you.

Justflo said...

What can I say?

Memories are so special. Keep them close to your heart.

Wendy said...

Oooh Gabi I'm so sorry to read this sad post about your FIL.
You and your family are in my thoughts and my prayers.

Hugs,
Wendy (HAED SAL blog)

Irma said...

Gabi, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. He sounds like such a wonderful man. Sending you good thoughts and hugs.

Stitchy Mc Floss said...

So sorry for your loss. My prayers go out to you and your family.

Vicki's Stitching In Oz said...

My condolences to you and all your fil's family Gabi. I know how you loved (and still do) him. I hope you retain only happy memories of him, as we try to for my mil and fil. Take the time you need, know that we're here for you if you need to chat.

Quiltsmiles said...

Hugs and sympathy are being sent your way.

Jane

Chrizette said...

Oh, Gabi - I am so sorry for the heartbreak you are suffering at the moment! Hugs for you and your family!

Maggie said...

Gabi, so sorry to hear about your FIL, but so glad he didn't suffer too much at the end, at least you were with him.

Take care xx

valerie said...

Oh so sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers to your family.

J Rae said...

So sorry for your loss. Thoughts & prayers for you & your family. He sounds like he was a wonderful man and you were all left with great memories to treasure.

Carol's Stitching said...

((HUGS)) May God hold you and your family in the palm of his hand during this time of grief. So sorry to hear of your loss.

Cindy's Stitching said...

Sorry for your loss Gabi.

Sahara said...

My dad is in his 70's and has "manageable cancer"...I can't imagine your loss...I am so sorry.

Kisses
Sahara

Brigitte said...

Oh Gabi, this is so sad. I'll be thinking of your and your family.